Trauma & Pain

At some point in our lives we will all experience trauma & pain - Both physical & emotional. Some more than others. I once had to write down all the trauma I have experienced in 81 years It covered both sides of a sheet of A4 - typed! Weirdly I had to keep going back to it & adding things I had missed. Some were surprisingly important, but I hadn't initially remembered them. I later wondered if my brain had put them in a box & hidden them away.

We are shaped by experience. At some point we learn that bad things happen. Initially we may well feel that we cannot cope & be utterly devastated. But eventually the "penny drops" & we understand that trauma can't be avoided, so we have to learn to deal with it. It helps if we are supported by friends & family, but ultimately we have to find the resources within ourselves.

There are millions of people in our world who are dealing with trauma far worse than anything I have faced. People without the basic necessities of life, people living under dreadful repressive regimes, people living with war.....In our relatively safe & comfortable lives sometimes we cannot find it within ourselves to sympathise & empathise enough to not only say we support them, but more importantly take action to aid. 

I watched a Ken Loach film from 2023 - "The Old Oak". I was very moved. It's about a group of Syrian refugees sent to an old mining community in County Durham. The community was devastated by the miners strike & is poor. They didn't know the refugees were coming & were initially hostile & in some cases racist. Both communities were traumatised by life. But gradually the things that were common to both & their innate humanity brought them together. Although it is a sad film, it is very uplifting & has a message we should all hear.

The things we all have in common, whatever our religion or culture, are bigger than the things that divide us. Sadly sometimes we don't seem to be able to see that. We cause eachother trauma & pain because we only see difference. We think our way of doing things & thinking is the only right way. We are deluded. We can be extremely narrow minded & extreme in our views. 

I have reached the point in life where I abhor extremists of any religion or nationality. I see no difference between extreme right wing or left wing politics. I see no difference between extreme Islam & extreme Christianity. We all need to find a middle way rooted in our common humanity. If that means we need to be more tolerant, more willing to share, more willing to distribute wealth & resources more fairly, I'm willing to do that. Farirness is not just an important concept, we need to put it into practice.

 

 Are you? Because if you are not the current instability will only get worse.