Forgiveness

Blues music is full of "you done me wrong" songs.   

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzlHw5lNTt0&list=RDVzlHw5lNTt0&start_radio=1

The human condition is prone to blame rather than accepting that the balance of probability is that it takes two to make a quarrel. Misunderstandings & arguments are normal in relationships. The important thing is how we deal with them. Do we react emotionally or rationally? Do we feel hurt in some way & let that determine what we say & do, or do we look for reasons and solutions? I know what I think.

I can't do the god thing, there are so many things you need to believe that I can't accept. But I do think that there are things beyond our current understanding & we should all try to live according to the basic tenets of all religions. So we should try to be forgiving & accept that we ourselves are not perfect, we all make bad choices & behave unacceptably.

There are two diametrically opposite ways of thinking & behaving, blame & forgiveness. We seem to have become a blaming society. When individuals are able to forgive, even huge wrongdoing, we are quite surprised. But holding on to anger & hatred does so much harm to the person doing it. Anger has physical, emotional, and mental effects on us. It increases the heart rate & muscle tension & contributes to negative emotional states & relationship problems. 

Our expectations of what others can & should do have become unrealistic. This is particularly evident in politics. Watching parliament in action & political commentary is now completely unedifying. Our parliament is a bear garden of an almost complete lack of realistic & honest discourse. It is point scoring, yah booing & is unlikely to solve any of the deep problems we are facing as a country & as individuals. 

There is an almost complete lack of honesty & willingness to take responsibility for errors of judgement or failure to act appropriately. Goodness knows why anyone would want to become a politician. Possibly we have reached the point when the people we would want to be in charge look at the way we run this country & think why on earth should I do that? There is an almost complete lack of trust in politicans or belief in what they say & do.

Someone needs to get a grip & I can't see any evidence that we have many people in any of the UK political parties capable of doing that. So it's up to the public to force their views to be listened to. Where are the real changemakers, the moral leaders who put what is right above pure self interest? Mandela lived this & really understood about forgiveness. 

 

He isn't a lone voice, but infortunately there are not many charismatic & selfless people whose voices are heard. So maybe we the populus have to shout louder & together to force real change & more understanding.