Being alone I now realise how important this is to human beings. We are social animals & have a deep need to interact with others. If we lose that ability, for whatever reason, we are diminished.
There are layers of communication, from superficial & shallow pleasantries to deep and meaningful sharing of our innermost thoughts. The former is fairly common, the latter requires real trust in another person, and is much rarer.
If you have that wonderful reciprocal sharing of yourself with another person, you may not realise it's value until it is lost. Replacing it then becomes an unfulfilled need unless you are very lucky.
I have become adapt at talking to anyone on any subject, but in truth what I do is ask questions & listen. It seems to me that most people want to tell you stuff - in detail. Once you become aware you realise that it is a very one sided conversation. They don't ask about you & your life, or if they do they really don't want to hear. They expect a one line answer. Many actually don't let you finish a sentence before moving on to another subject.
I'm sure this isn't meant to be hurtful or dismissive. I just think that we have become a very self absorbed & selfish society.
Prince William & Kate Middleton got married yesterday. It was a wonderful day & it seems they have this real bond of communication. I hope they manage to keep it. It will be hard in the face of the very public & demanding life they lead. Hopefully they have family & friends whom they can trust when problems arise, and they will. They are human beings, if very privileged ones. They will also have advisors on every possible subject because they are the centre of a PR vortex. Their wedding was literally seen around the world, as it happened, because of our modern, sophisticated, communication network.
I hope that they continue to listen to their inner voices and eachother through the years to come.
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