The Golden Section - Fibonnacci Numbers

Given that, at best, I'm an agnostic, the Golden Section/Ratio/Mean - Fibonnacci Numbers give me pause for serious thought. I can't believe in the main tenets of Christianity though. I don't believe in God, that Jesus was the son of God, or the in Virgin Birth.

However, I simply can't believe that something as wonderful as the Golden Section can be as universal in all aspects of the Universe by chance. Artists have produced beautiful paintings.

Architects have designed wonderful buildings,

The natural world is crammed full of divergent examples of living things based on the Golden Section.

 

Even our faces & our bodies follow the Golden Section.

 

How can you see all this evidence of some sort of divine plan & believe that the universe & everything on it just happened randomly? Maybe I'll find out - eventually.

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Eeyores & Negativity

Generally speaking I am optimistic & positive. I don't worry about what might happen - I accept the worst case scenario, but in my experience it hardly ever happens. Life has a way of sorting itself out. Sometimes what you think is the best outcome isn't & what actually happens opens up new possibilities you hadn't thought of.

Perhaps because of that I find negativity very difficult to deal with. I am impatient with Eeyores, I find them too draining.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CQI0E1WCLMU

In my experience Eeyores are impossible to argue with & therefore it is a waste of my time to try. Whatever life experience has made them into the people they are, must have been too strong a lesson to counteract. Trying to encourage positivity or counteract the weight of pessimism & obsession with self has too much of an effect on my life to be a worthwhile activity.

That may sound harsh. I accept that. But now life is literally too short to do what I used to - Listen & sympathise for ages. Offer alternative ways of looking at the situation. Suggest actions which may help.

Eeyores just want to download. They are really not interested in solutions. Their belief system is entrenched to such an extent that now I am just cutting to the chase & accepting my limitations to help.

In this complex world of real problems I need positivity & hope.

Death - Life is more than just breathing

 

A friend from my Grammar school 6th form days has died. She is the first one of my close contemporaries to go. We haven't seen eachother for almost 50 years, but I am still really sad because we meant a lot to eachother at that time in our lives when everything was opening up in front of us & we were young & enthusiastic to grasp it all.

Now at the tail end of my life, with people I know leaving - permanently, I know how important it is to value good friends & family. I know that love & friendship isn't about the gifts you give for birthdays & Christmas. It isn't about who has what - who has been a success & who hasn't. 

It's quite simple really, it's all about time. Friendship & love costs nothing. It should be freely given. "Listen" & "Silent" are spelled with the same letters. There are appropriate times for both. What people need is other people to really listen to them & be able to be silent in an engaged & loving way.

All too often we are so wrapped up in the tumult of our own lives, a lot of it actually not that important, that we aren't properly "there" for the people who love us & need us.It is shaming that in our modern, civilised world lonliness is endemic in all demographic groups.

We all die. We are all dying right now. In philosophical terms we all do die alone. But to actually be alone when you die must be dreadful in the true sense of that word. I don't think that happened to my friend.

I'm not afraid of dying. I am afraid of how I die.  

Remembrance & Commemoration

Remembrance - the action of remembering the dead.
Commemoration - a ceremony or celebration in which a dead person or past event is remembered.

Remembrance Sunday is held in the United Kingdom as a day "to commemorate the contribution of British and Commonwealth military and civilian servicemen and women in the two World Wars and later conflicts"

I was born in January 1945. Armistice day for World War 2 was the 14th of August. This year we have just "celebrated" 100 years since Armistice day for World War 1.

Although we say there has been peace since 1945, that is open to debate. In fact, according to my first source, there have been 14 wars up to & including Afghanistan which supposedly ended in 2014.
https://www.infoplease.com/timelines/major-military-operations-world-war-ii

The Imperial War Museum adds to that:-

The Kenya Emergency, 1952–1960
The Suez Crisis, 1956
The Malayan Emergency, 1948–1960
The Aden Emergency, 1963–1967
The Troubles, 1968–1998
The Falklands War, 1982
The Gulf War, 1990–1991
The Bosnian War, 1992–1995
The Kosovo War, 1998–1999
The Global War on Terrorism, 2001–2013
https://www.iwm.org.uk/history/timeline-of-20th-and-21st-century-wars

Encyclopaedia Britannica adds:-
The 2nd Congo war
The Syrian Civil war
The Darfur conflict
The war against Boko Haram
The Yemeni civil war
The Ukraine conflict
https://www.britannica.com/list/8-deadliest-wars-of-the-21st-century

I wonder if I've missed anything out?

My point is that although I can see the point of remembering, the single lesson of this history of the last 73 years, which just happens to be my lifespan, I can't see a reason to commemorate or celebrate it. So what is the lesson? That war doesn't work. That millions, upon millions, are killed or maimed. That millions, upon millions, have their lives utterly destroyed. Millions, upon millions, of those are women & children. Whole cities & countries are reduced to rubble.

I think we should think deeply now about what Remembrance should be about. To my mind it should not just be about our wars & our soldiers. It should be about everyone, male & female, adult & child, combatant & non combatant, winners or losers, whatever nationality & country.

Maybe then we might finally start to work towards accepting that war is the biggest failure of mankind. We could actually try to find different ways to deal with conflict. Wars are generally about Place, Power, Poverty & Beliefs.

If we don't find another way all that destruction & death isn't worth a candle in a dark room.

    

Buyer Beware / Caveat Emptor

I am seriously p...... off.

I'm old enough to remember when anything you bought had a price. You could either afford it or you couldn't. If you couldn't you could borrow on Hire Purchase. Mortgage deposits were 2.5 times your salary & even professional women's salaries couldn't be counted. Credit cards didn't exist, but you could talk to your local bank manager and try to negotiate a loan. Basically ordinary working people saved up to buy things & went without if they didn't have the money. Second hand was commonplace. We weren't ashamed to be given furniture by friends & family, younger children were used to hand me down clothes.

Things have changed, sometimes for the good. Often for worse.

What p..... me off is the fact that there is a business culture of ripping off the public, charging excessive amounts if they can get away with it, not valuing customer loyalty.

Everything you buy, unless it's unique, can vary enormously in price. For example - I am about to have a stair lift fitted. The variation between the three quotes I got was hundreds of pounds. The highest quote was from Age Concern, who are in partnership with a stair lift company, (for the identical stairlift). I don't mind donating to a charity, but not when that donation is hidden within a commercial transaction.

Every time I renew anything, insurance, phone & broadband, energy, bank accounts - Or when I buy anything, big or small - holidays, white goods, TV's... I have to check to see whether I'm paying a reasonable price. I have to spend a considerable ammount of time, usually on line on comparison sites, checking what I should be paying.

There are specific sites to do this, Money Supermarket, Money Saving Expert, uSwitch, Which....All of whom make money out of helping us to buy something without getting ripped off.

Why on earth have we reached this point where the consumer needs advice & protection from everyone who sells us anything? "Buyer Beware" has never been more relevant.

Why are the public treated with so little respect by big companies for whom the bottom line is everything? All they are really interested in is paying shareholders big enough dividends so that they won't query the excessive salaries the top management are paying themselves.

The world has become enslaved to big business. Politicians are lobbied hard & a lot of money is spent ensuring that what the business world wants it gets. The consumer is a very small & insignificant cog in the wheel of commerce. The balance of power is weighted against ordinary people.

Now our consumerism is seriously damaging our world. We, all, created this mess.

Weekends

When I was working, weekends were a welcome respite from the stresses of what seemed at times to be an impossible balancing act. Being a Headteacher from  the late 70's to the early 90's seemed at times like being a hamster on a wheel or a juggler keeping plates spinning in the air. By the time I left I was completely burnt out, as were so many of my colleagues. Things don't seem to have improved for teachers now, more than 25 years later.

The two days of a weekend were the time to catch up with everything that needed to be done as a wife & mother. There was no time or energy left during the week to do anything other than simply just keep the show on the road.

Retrospectively I have often wondered whether that commitment to what is essentially just a job, which required that pace of life, was worth the price. I don't think it was, but it was expected. By everyone - parents, teachers, Governors, Politicians, the public & the media. But most of all by all of us working at the chalk face of teaching. With very few exceptions we knew, that each child needed the best education possible throughout their educational life.

That model of work as a vocation doesn't just apply to teaching. Today the "work life balance" simply doesn't exist for huge numbers of people in a wide variety of jobs. Things have got worse, job security has disappeared in a puff of smoke. Wages have stagnated for years. There are food banks because even those in work cannot afford to feed their families. The pressures on people to do whatever it takes to keep a job must be immense. The pressures on single parent families must be even worse.

Weekends should be a time for relaxation, for fun, for doing things together with the people you love. All too often that isn't possible. Batteries don't get recharged. People are so busy doing the things they have to do they are almost as driven as they are when they are at work.

Human beings were not made to operate at full throttle all the time. It isn't healthy. Look at so called less "civilised" societies. They are much more communal. They are less individualistic & certainly are less materialistic. In my travels in Africa, the Middle East, Asia & South America I would say they have a capacity for simple happiness that we have sadly lost.

Bring back relaxed weekends & a better work life balance I say. Ironically now I'm retired my weeks seem just as busy, but in totally different ways. Weekends do seem to be an oasis of calm, with nothing much happening.